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Today my son started third grade, and my daughter started kindergarten. I know it's silly, but I had tears in my eyes as I took her to her new classroom, got her settled, met her teacher, filled out paperwork, etc. She's my baby, but now she's a big girl entering the wider world, and she's moving away from me. It wasn't quite as hard when her older brother started kindergarten, because I still had a baby at home then. There won't be any more babies for me, which makes me sad.

Not that I miss the sleepless nights, the crying jags, and the sheer physical drudgery of caring for an infant or a toddler. But I do miss the unconditional love, the joy, the peace of just having a baby sleeping on your chest, feeling its soft breath on your cheek and its milky weight in your arms, smelling its clean scent. I miss rocking my babies to sleep. I miss giving them baths. I miss having them pat my face and look at me like I am the star of their universe.

Feeling melancholy today. Does this ever get easier?

by duchick 619 Posts

Posted on 9/2/2008 10:22 AM

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And the x-tra bonus in the future is the Grandbabies!!!! They are a blast....

by __STRIKER__ 1399 Posts
Posted on 9/2/2008 8:54 PM

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Well, Rob, all I can say is, if you ever have the opportunity to be a dad, you should go for it. I think you'd be an awesome dad.

Parenthood is definitely not for everyone. For a long time, I didn't think it was for me, either, and I chose to wait to until I was somewhat older (first baby at 32, second baby at 35).

It's the hardest, and most thankless, job in the world. But I'm so glad I did it. I take great joy and pride in my children as they grow; I just miss the babies they used to be.

by duchick 619 Posts
Posted on 9/2/2008 3:13 PM

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Hey Duchick! I have absolutely no advice. I've never been a child's star. I always wanted kids, but she didn't. It was one of those things for us. It's not something she snuck up on me, I knew ahead of the game. Still, here I sit at 40 and go, "did I make a bad choice, did I miss out on something special?"

Ok, this isn't about me, it's about you. I'm just relating in the only way I could. It was either that or start some weird akward star wars metaphor...;)

by Robert-Boyd 5134 Posts
Posted on 9/2/2008 1:54 PM

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No, I can't. My cousin has 5 boys, the oldest of whom is 9. I really can't picture what that must be like....but they seem like great kids, so she must be doing something right!

by duchick 619 Posts
Posted on 9/2/2008 12:43 PM

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yes, it does get easier. i miss that too....and feel like i missed out on it when i had it, cuz i was forced into dealing with a divorce when they were so little (just 1 and 2).

but, i also can't imagine doing it again.

i have a friend with four boys under 5. can you imagine?

by paula1 12664 Posts
Posted on 9/2/2008 10:25 AM

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