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Numb and Confused  

Today is a bad day, its overcast and gray and I feel the same way. 

I'm on vacation and cant find the motivation or energy. The week started off well and now i'm stuck.

Lots of things are going through my mind. STBX texting me that  he missed  me isn't helping. 

 

I'm stressing about our living arrangements. I'm having second thoughts about moving next door and having a whole house to myself. Sometimes I think I should just go to an apartment and have a lot more money left over at the end of the month. I don't like where I'm living now the land lady  isn't friendly and kind of jealous. I don't think she likes a single mom being here.

I don't like apartments and having to go to the laundromat and no parking. I know it stupid stuff, I just like living in a house and having a yard, just the whole comfort and homey feeling I guess.

 

It's taking a while for my "happy pill" (thats what my daughter calls it) to get working.

I don't know what I'm doing, what I should do, It's getting pretty confusing.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

by asim  775 Posts 

Posted on 8/28/2008 12:05 PM
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don't forget the sipping tequila!
by spaznskitz   7745 Posts
Posted on 8/28/2008 6:53 PM
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Yup just bounce around from town to town with my kids in tow, my backpack and sombrero. LOL
by asim   775 Posts
Posted on 8/28/2008 6:51 PM
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Sounds like a plan.  Just be a nomad. 
by Robert-Boyd   5134 Posts
Posted on 8/28/2008 6:12 PM
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I checked out New Mexico online a while back, looked really nice, maybe there. I'd jump around from state to state. =)
by asim   775 Posts
Posted on 8/28/2008 5:23 PM
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Where would you go?

by Robert-Boyd   5134 Posts
Posted on 8/28/2008 5:12 PM
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If a suddenly came on some $$$ and my stbx didn't care about our son (fat chance) I would actually leave the state.
by asim   775 Posts
Posted on 8/28/2008 5:03 PM
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Yeah pretty locked.  This will be my girls senior year. My 19  year old in on a  program at the local JC.
and my job is 3 blocks away and cant get even get  there on time LOL. Thats my bread and butter.
I would LOVE to get the hell outa here. =)
by asim   775 Posts
Posted on 8/28/2008 5:00 PM
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Are you locked in Downy?  Have you tried other areas?  Even the IE isn't to bad, no matter how much you guys thumb your nose at us!  There are also some ok areas of San Bernadino.   I know it's a hell of a commute, but I don't know how locked you are to your job...I'm only throwing out alternetives. there are always alternatives.
by Robert-Boyd   5134 Posts
Posted on 8/28/2008 4:51 PM
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Hey Rob, Sorry you missed the party at your place last nigh.  We where taking shots LOL

So, yeah, I saw one townhome and the rent was 100 buck more than this place and no yard. I also have bad credit now so I'll have a hard time unless I'm dealing with the actual owners and get to talk to them and explain my situation. The next door neighbor actually came to me. It's a good deal really. I don't know, I suck at decision making =(
by asim   775 Posts
Posted on 8/28/2008 4:31 PM
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Have you considered renting a townhome or a condo?  They're usually cheaper than regular homes, and still give you the ability to have laundry rooms, and some comforts of home like a small/tiny yard. 

Why don't you come inland today Asim?  We're clear.  It's hot, but sunny.
by Robert-Boyd   5134 Posts
Posted on 8/28/2008 4:18 PM
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Came back too soon. My stepson called on the way to the park and needed a ride to the DMV, I told him to call me when he was done so we had to cut the park short. It was too hot anyway, the sun did make an appearance. I cant believe the week is almost over. My vacation will be over soon. oh well.
by asim   775 Posts
Posted on 8/28/2008 4:02 PM
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Hi Trisha,
The rent would be the same as I pay now, I will have to pay water over there. I pay a bit over 50% of my income in rent which is about the norm in CA.
My 19 year old blew away his money over the summer and I had to help him pay for his classes. That took a big chunk out of the little money I had put aside, I think that is stressing me out too.
 I did take little one to a little theme park on Tuesday that was fun an cheep. We have a nice park with a lake and ducks that's where I'm headed to NOW, went yesterday also. And yes, I am forcing myself out the door, thanks.

I'm taking Wellbutrin its only been about a week. It'll start working soon I hope.
Okay, I'm out!
Talk to you later. Thank you!!!
by asim   775 Posts
Posted on 8/28/2008 1:08 PM
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asim,
It'll be okay. Some apts. have their own washer- dryers. Around where I live they do. I know what you mean about a house. You have more space to be yourself and some apts. have very thin walls. The parking sucks. If the kids make too much noise the neighbors complain. Houses are much nicer. Is the house going to put you in a bind financially?

I hate it when my washer or dryer tears up and I have to go to the laundromat. It seems a total waste of time when I could be doing something else.  
 
Maybe the sun will come out and you will feel better. It helps me. You already know I'm having a bad day too. What "happy pills" did your doctor prescribe? How long have you been taking them now? Maybe you need to go back to your doctor.

Wow, you get a vacation!!! I hope you plan on taking the little one some where. I will tell you like you told me once: Get up, get out the door and get moving.
Take care

by trisha9054   4967 Posts
Posted on 8/28/2008 12:41 PM
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