Single Moms on the Rise 

The article here on Divorce360, Single Moms On The Rise, reminded me of my stubborn stance about never remarrying.  I've said since my final separation that I would never do it again.

Why invest so much legally on a relationship that probably won't make it and tie myself up in lawyers and legal expenses?  And I've said all along that if I decided I wanted another child, I just have one and raise it by myself. 

I know it sounds awful.  And no, I'm not sure how i would explain to that child why he/she didn't have a father active in their life, but I won't marry again or battle with another person and have a child involved as a pawn.

My divorce was horrible for me.  I was in such a state of shock the first time ex left that I don't remember whole chunks of time in my life.  My family was afraid I had suffered a nervous breakdown.  I was so distraught and out of it my daughter wanted to stay with her babysitter.  What a terrible wake-up call for me.  Diva was such a mommy's girl.

Now, remember I was pregnant, too, and my doctor and family were afraid I'd miscarry or end up having to be put in the hospital. 

I lost my home to bankruptcy and had to pull my kids out of the only home and school they'd ever known.  It was awful for them. 

No, not me.  Not ever again.