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Does Separation Mean Divorce? 


Frequently, when we hear about separation, we think that somebody is getting a divorce.  That's not always the case.  Sometimes it can be used as a tool to save a marriage from falling into divorce.


The trick to a separation is to understand why you're doing it.  Your key goal should be to focus on your marriage.  This means setting ground rules, and obeying the vows you made when you married. Separation is not a time to "test the waters" or bring somebody else in the mix.  There is no surer way to bring about divorce. 


The other thing is to be honest.  That also means don't "omit" truths; that's just the same as lying.  Once you've separated Take time away from family friends and life to concentrate on each other.  Try to remind each other what brought you together in the first place.


If you handle this right, separation won't mean divorce, it'll mean the beginning of another chapter in your marriage.


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by inthenews  754 Posts 

Posted on 8/22/2008 3:59 AM
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Comments for "Does Separation Mean Divorce?"  (3) (You must be logged in to answer)

My husband and I separated in June. He's already in another relationship and has even introduced his friend to our children. What started as a separation is fast heading in the direction of a serious divorce. Our marriage has suffered for many years, and he's had an affair in the past. Unfortunately, we never recovered from that. I just want it to be over. I can't get the information I need fast enough.
by porach   2 Posts
Posted on 9/19/2010 11:24 PM

Forgive me for asking this, Troy, but aren't you?  I swear, I'm not trying to be glib, I'm just trying to get a handle on your situation.  Are you looking up advice for something else, or about divorce?  I mean if you're looking at other things, try the honest approach.  if he asks, explain what you are looking for, and even show him.  There is plenty of other "not necessarily divorce" advice here, show him some of that, and what you are looking for and put him at ease.  I think that honesty is the best approach, it saves people from letting their imaginations run wild.
by Robert-Boyd   5300 Posts
Posted on 9/15/2008 4:30 AM

Okay i can deal with that. But how do i let my husband know im looking up some advice with out him jumping to conlusions about me thinking about divorce
by Troy   2 Posts
Posted on 9/14/2008 5:35 PM

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