Why Does It Feel So Bad That He Doesn't Feel Bad? 

Yeah, it just felt so crappy to get that. I hit reply and asked to be removed from the mailing list. The sooner I stop worrying about what he is or isn't feeling the better.

GFGTD -

it was a work newsletter - do you really think he is going to put his innermost feelings in it? Of course he is going to say he's have a great summer - his true personal life isn't anyone's business but his own.

For the time you were together, you had some great times - you enjoyed his company, it is sad to know it is over but you have to remember it for what it was when it was good - not just how it ended.

 

It was an oversight on his part sending it to you, more than likely you are in a group list - he isn't throwing anything in your face. You can't take it personally - it wasn't some sort of planned attack against your emotions.

I'm sorry you are hurting, but don't for one second think, that just because he can seem on the outside like everyhting is fine, that he doesn't have some heartbreak himself over the ending of your relationship.

I'm sure there are situations where you too, have to seem like all is right and well in the world. I doubt you are busting out in tears at the grocery store...or in dealings with your work...

It feels bad because he's not feeling anything like you are.  He obviously is selfish and only cares about himself to do something to you so hurtful and heartless.  People like that only think about themself and have no remorse or no regards to other people's feelings.  My ex was that way, very selfish and self-centered and thought the world revolved around him.  He claimed he wasn't happy but I don't think anyone or anything can truly make him happy, but obviously after finding out he cheated on me and lied to me for months, and now he's living with the tramp he cheated on me with, it hurts me because I want to see him hurting.  I am hurting because he has found someone else and is happy (or so I think he is--I don't know what's truly going on behind closed doors and you don't either with him.) I mean he could be sending out these newsletters and putting up an act and everything to just to make it look good and to make his life look good, I've seen people do that too many times.  Especially friends of mine who are married and I know they have problems in their marriage that they haven't dealt with, but in front of other people they put on this front and pretend everything is peachy but it truly isn't.  That's not the life I want to live and I don't think the majority of the people out there do either.  Why be in a marriage just for the sake of the kids or just so you don't have to be alone--when you are unhappy!?  Yeah it hurts, but like I always say--what goes around comes around!!  :)  Hang in there and hopefully he will take you off the mailing list if he has any heart left.  Sounds like you are better off without a person like that.