With kids, would you consider getting married again? 

I have been divorced for 5 years and now dating a great guy. I have 3 kids (21,16,&13). We are now planning on getting married but my kids are having a huge problem with it even though they really like him. There is the jealousy issue coming into play because they haven't had to share me with anyone else before. I don't think we need to dismiss marriage just because it didn't work out with the ex. The kids will just have to deal with it. If they see your happiness then it may be a little easier for them. Good luck!

I do think I will remarry and I have two small kids.  Funny you said about shopping for 3 because I feel the same way.  I am actually in a relationship with a great man and I can see  him being a wonderful figure for my kids.   He would not be a replacement for the kid's father and their father is very much in their life (just as much as I am), but this person would be an additional to our lives.  I see that working some day in the future.  My boyfriend is separated and getting a divorce...he also has one son.  We are taking things very slowly to ensure that everything with us is set before we consider having the kids involved and then meeting each other too.  We feel that is for the best for them and also for the best for our relationship as a group later.  We will see what happens.  My first marriage did not work out, but it made me realize that life is too short to not be happy....so yes I will try again.  The good thing is that both me and my boyfriend communicate openly about everything.  We know where our mistakes were in our first relationships and we don't want to make them again.  Everyone deserves another chance so we should not turn off marriage options just because one did not work.  Good luck to everyone as you move ahead in your lives.

I think I would like to be married again but not anytime soon.

Dk- The amount of good prospects  gets less the older we get. To find one that would take on a ready made family is even less.

BUT you are right to be picky. To subject your children to anything less than a good woman/man is not fair to them. Let me warn you though. If you  were to find someone whom you are interested in, the kids may be "jealous" and try to cause problems. So if you do find someone be aware of that. He may be perfect for all of you ...and your kids may not want to share you. After all , they have had you to theirselves for 10 years. Been there and done that!

It's funny because I don't want to get re-married either but I live with my b/f. We each have kids. My ex just remarried.
I am just not sure I want to do that again. The whole marriage thing. I mean I have  good thing now why ruin it by getting married. Will my kids get a better example because I'm married? We have a good relationship. The kids get along.
I ask myself this every so often: do I want to get married again.

ps - my b/f wants to get married. it's me holding things up.

Rock on!

Not sure if I would get married again, knowing what I know now.  Of course, I was young and very naive when I got married.  In retrospect, I wish I had listened to my mother and waited a bit. 

Famous Last Words...I wish I had listened to my mother.

DK, those are my thoughts exactly 100%. You really have your "stuff" together.

If my marriage ends the way I think it is going to I would tell you that I have already made up my mind.  Marriage for me was a big mistake.  The only happy ending in site is my daughter.  So I think for me I would have to say NO for sure.  I have definite thoughts on bring a man/men into a house with my little girl.  Ok, so I have trust issues.  If they keep her safe I am more then willing to have those issues.

But that is just me.