Do You Blame Yourself For His Cheating? 

oh my god... you are so right I too blamed myself for his actions. When I first found out I blamed his actions on me. I would ask myself "What didn't I do right" "Why didn't I even notice" "What did she give him that I couldn't" my self-esteem went down big time I mean everything changed. But, the more I thought I about it I realized that "No it wasn't my fault" and you are right yes we had problems in our marriage but, I always did my part in trying to solve what was going on by talking to him. I didn't go outside our marriage I stuck it thru but, yet it was his choice to cross that line and find "comfort" with someone else and that thought about "what did she give him that I couldn't" well nothing really "sex" maybe but, that's all it was. You see I am the better person because no matter how hard she tried to "break" us apart he still came home to me and my kids so that showed her that "He was never going to leave me" and I know I am better than her because as a Wife and a mother I respect myself and she stooped so low to find comfort with someone that wasn't going to return it to her. When I talked to her she said " I wanted him to leave you I gave him something you couldn't" of course I wanted to Bitch her out but, I kept my cool and all I said was " Look you did what you did but, your still alone and you couldn't give him what I gave him there's a reason why I m his wife, have his last name, and his kids" It's because " I AM THE WIFE" and everywhere we go " I will and I am known as his "Wife" not a homewrecker or be known as the "OW" and one day " YOU WILL FIND YOUR SELF IN MY SITUATION" mark my words. So, now me and my husband are working things out but, before I did that I had to over come what happened and face that it did happen but, that it wasn't my fault I know deep down inside I am better person shit for a mom of three beautiful kids I am still looking good my self esteem did fall in the beginning but, let me tell you " It's way up high right now".