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Birthday's Aren't the Same After Divorce

Tomorrow is my birthday. As far as I know it is going to look like any other day. I will be disappointed. I suppose I have my mother to thank for that. She always made a big deal of them, so somehow I always expect a big deal now.

When I was married, my husband didn't have a clue, but with a little guidance he usually made them special. I've been doing birthdays solo for quite some time. I don't even think my ex took the kids shopping this time. I prompted them to maybe think about at least baking a cake.

From the rattles going on in the kitchen right now, I think that much is happening. My birthday is on a Friday night, and I believe I will likely be home cuddled up with a good book, and maybe a good glass of wine.

You see I can't really go out, as it's my night to have the kids. I know that if I were married, we'd probably at least go out to dinner and to a movie. So instead I suppose the kids and I will go out to dinner, try their cake creation, and other than that it will probably just have to be an ordinary day.

by DK-Simoneau 189 Posts

Posted on 7/25/2008 2:56 PM

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I don't know how old your kids are or how you are set financially, but something fun and cheap that will last for a long time is creating a memory box. I save every special card that really means someting to me, a button on a favorite coat, a pressed flower given to me from my son, a hand written message with a crayon picture, an old coin or a picture of somewhere i have been or want to go. I create a special box and put these things inside and when i feel down or lonely I look back over these things and the messages and feelings I had with these precious things remind me that i am loved.

Happy Birthday

by DoeRaeMe 31 Posts
Posted on 7/26/2008 4:10 PM

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY, DK!!! WE LOVE YOU!!

by 2much42long 3031 Posts
Posted on 7/26/2008 4:00 PM

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Why not make it a fun night with your kids, kind of like Paula suggested?

Go putt-putt golfing, go to a museum, go to a new place to eat dinner that you've been dying to try but never have, or do something at home with your kids...

Go rent some movies, and since it is YOUR birthday, pick one out special for you, and make a batch of popcorn, hit the "play" button and camp out on the floor watching movies. Or get out the 'ol board games and play a couple of games with the kids.

I bet you'll end up with more meaningful memories as you look back and remember how, on your birthday, you spent the night laughing and truly enjoying the company of your kids, remembering that THEY really made the day special.

Just do something you enjoy doing and start a new tradition of things to do on your birthday.

by Aimless 1058 Posts
Posted on 7/25/2008 3:57 PM

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Birthdays were never special in my family. As I became a teenager I always got a pair of shoes from my mother. Every year after I married she sent me a check for $20.00 on my birthday. Then she reduced it to $10.00 because my brother needed extra money. I have to admit that the year after my mother died I missed the $10.00 she would send me on my birthday. It wasn't the money I missed; it was the fact that she went to the trouble to send me a gift in the mail. I appreciated the effort she put into sending me that gift on my birthday.
My ex wasn't much on birthdays either. I always had to make my own cake and cook supper too. But we went all out for his birthday. I made a cake that took a lot of time to make and fixed his favorite meal. He didn't like going out. So birthdays are just another day for me.

by trisha9054 4967 Posts
Posted on 7/25/2008 3:32 PM

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take your kids and do something crazy and fun. don't let a divorce ruin your birthday. start a new tradition...starting tomorrow!

by paula1 12664 Posts
Posted on 7/25/2008 2:59 PM

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