5/11/08 

Great advice from both of you.  I appreciate you taking the time.  I need to get to the gym regularly to take some of the stress.  I am taking anti-depressants but just on the ramp  up phase.  A week or two more and I should be in great shape.  Right now I think the AD's are working.  Wish I didn't need to be on them but I think its important now.

I'm worried about the kids especially my daughter lately.  She is very stoic but also seems stressed.  I've tried getting her to talk without pushing her.  My son is more outwardly upset but seems to be getting better every day.

I still hope my wife's weekend with her friends gives her some direction.  She has told me that they say not to get divorced and try and work through it.  I really think a major stumbling block is she doesn't want to deal with her affair.  But its her choice at this point, I can't change her mind.

I know how you both feel - my husband kept me in limbo for months about trying to reconcile, or move to divorce.  He decided divorce & his girlfriend on 4/20 - there's a sense of relief in knowing which direction, but still - so hard to get used to.  I thought we separated to spend time alone to heal and reflect, he took his emotional affair to the next level instead.  
I had to go on sleeping pills & antidepressants in January to get some sleep.  I went for 7 days without sleeping... no kidding, I didn't know it could be done.  I'd sit in a recliner chair and just tremble all night long.  It's gotten somewhat better with a new routine, but there are nights still spent pacing in the kitchen.  Here's a tip, a hot shower and a handful of crackers then to bed... the carbs help to knock you out and the shower is very relaxing.

good for you man. Sleep is very inportant in these tough times. I'm in the same boat. my wife tossed me out of my house 3 weeks ago and evar since I've only been able to sleep maybe 4 hrs a night. I'm trying to reconcile with my wife, but she wont even talk to me so I'm in limbo too. maybe you should give her some time. thats what I'm trying to do. Keep a clear head, get sleep and eat regularly. I,m  really not the one to give advice because I' having a tough time coping with all the pain in my own seperation, but I feel your pain and will try to listen and help as best as I can.