Help: How do you have a sleepover when your kid is in the other room? 

If you think I’m asking you this for selfish reasons — you’re right.

It was so easy when I was the single mom of a wee little one, like Ms. Single Mama or Chrissy at Glamour.

Back in the days, it was so simple. I could invite a man over — and escort him out the door before sunrise — without my little girl having a clue. She was so little that she couldn’t open a door — she could barely reach the knob. But life is tricky now.

For one, my kid is now eight. As you know, I’m also a solo mom, without an ex in the picture. I don’t have it easy like Dad’s House, a single dad who can plan out overnights when his ex has the kids. If there’s one single parent who knows where I’m coming from, it’s Trey Ellis.

When I saw Trey in NYC this winter, I drilled him for advice about adult-slumber parties. Mostly, we ended up sharing stories of what doesn’t work (like trying to have a make-out session with someone on the sofa, when you suddenly hear a little voice say, “I have to go pee pee!”)

Granted, I have a great childcare crew. My sister takes Mae once a month, a girlfriend might offer to have her for a “half” slumber party, sometimes a “whole” one. My dad watches Mae when I’m working late, but he’s too nervous about slumber parties.

Still, having sex just once or twice a month? Uh, that’s not much.

So, what to do? Tell me: Do you have a lock on the door? Do you plan adult-only time when your kids are away?

How do you orchestrate a sleepover when there are kids in the house?