North Carolina Offers Compensation for Cheated on Spouses. 

Well it should work, but if it doesn't, I can invite you.  Check your friend invites you should have one.

You have an interesting journal here, inthenews.  I would like to add you as a friend, but for some reason when I click on that link it is not allowing me to send it.  Any suggestions? Thanks!

well, my husband left me because I wasn't available enough for him physically, I have stage 4 endometriosis which makes intercourse painful, and am also infertile... after 9 years of marriage he decided it was time for his needs to be met the way he wanted them met and left me for a woman 16 years younger than me (we're 41, she's 25)... and he blamed in all on me because I had chronic pain, fatigue, anemia, infertility all due to a disease, so much for that sickness & health part of our wedding vows.  i'm sure they'll have a family within a year to add even more insult to injury after 4 years of our own fertility treatments - and yeah, it's all my fault according to him, who could blame him for having an affair - all of his friends, according to him, told him to just leave me because I wasn't performing even the most basic of marital obligations.  it's such a heartbreak on so many levels - who knows why one field blooms and the other lays barren?

Here are my thoughts.........That's a typical response from a guilty female spouse. There is no reason for adultery in any marriage other than selfesh uncontrollable sexual desire . Don't blame your spouse of neglect. As years pass in a marriage, sex should drop on the priority list due to increase emotional security. When my spouse tried to justify her affair,(with a married man) she jumped around with various reasons to blame me. She, at no time accepted any responsibility for her actions. After 24 years of marriage. I firmly believe that pre-meditated adultery should be a criminal offense and both parties involve should be held accountable..........That's my thought!

That's an interesting thought, SmartNSexy.  Not as in "You really are crazy" interesting, but more, "I'd never thought of it that way."  I don't know.  I'll agree that MyUnwife and I weren't matched. The thought that I could find somebody and build on that is a great theory.  I guess I'll have to wait and see it in practice though...

I think the government should stay out of its citizens bedrooms.  It is nobody's business who is sleeping with who.
 
If the spouse who was the one who was "cheated on" looked at the reason(s) why the other felt the need to go outside the marriage, they might realize that they had as much to do with the problem as the stray did.

In 14 years of marriage I recall practically begging for him to make love to me.  I recall him getting angry at me for saying "Honey let's go roll in the hay" around my kids who still, 8 years later did not know what that expression refered to. I had an affair in my 12th year after I met a man who actually paid attention to me. I am not proud of it, but I know that I loved my husband but felt empty and alone inside in my marriage.

I ended this affair but a year later my spouse found out... and poof, he divorced me for it.. .


  I really believe that God does not match people with the same libidos until later in life to ensure that things get built and worked on....

What are your thoughts?