Completly Lost!! 

Your situation is quite a tough one, but just keep in perspective that if he says he could see himself hurting you, that it is not where you want to be. That is what I would concentrate on, and that he isn't the man you thought. Remember that this isn't the end, and maybe a blessing in disguise!

I'm no different from you,right now I felt so alone and lost,only been separated for 2 weeks and in the process of divorce and it's very tough and I feel like there's no hope but to think about it with a lot of prayers and support group like this eventually we will see the light in time..the true happiness..GOD Bless and keep posted.

Kayla,
  several people have given you some good advice. In some states you need only be a resident for 6 months and you can file a simple divorce. The things to consider are if you have marital property, and or children, if yes you should hire a lawyer, if no a simple divorce is easy quick and not expensive.

 Before you do either of those give it time and be sure of the decision do you want a divorce. No of course you do nat want a divorce, but would it be best is the real question.

 The first few weeks are the worst, but it does get a little easier in time.
 i am a man, my wife left, took everything, took control of our business, and all the money coming in by using a restraining order, all the cash, even took all the vehicles, She left me that way for weeks, and after 15 years of marriage. One night the hurt was so bad i actually convinced my self that all would be forgiven if she would just come home, i actually would have allowed that at that point because i hurt so much. her reasons for doing all of that...she said she just did not want any more obligations.
 since then, i got the house, my vehicle, and custody of our 13 year old son. I have also legally regained control of two of our business locations. I used lawyers for this.
 I am now at the point of being 2 days from making the decision to file for divorce, it is a big decision to make.
 make your decisions carefully.
 I have already met someone wonderful, in my state it does not matter, and i can tell you that the best way to get your mind off someone, is spend time with someone else. There is hope and it will get better.
 good luck, and i wish you the best

that's one thing i have noticed about this site.  we're all in the same boat in way or another.  I've been married going on 12 years this year and he came home after we moved out of state and had a house built and said he just doesn't know what he wants but it's not me.  That hurt.  Unfortuanly I don't have my parents here and I can't move out of state cause of the kids.  I have been seperated for 4 months now and I have finally realized that I am the better person and so are you.  Some people are like leaves.  They come in and out of  our lives.  Your husband is a leaf like mine.  We are the better people and we will get through this.  Your lucky you have your parents and their love and support to help you through this rough time. 
Hang in there.  It'll all work out better in the end.
Kayla

I just signed up after reading your story.... I have been married for 2 1/2 years and I came home one day to find my husband moved out... I recieved a letter from his attorney 3 days later (on Valentines Day!). He will not talk to me or tell me why he wants a divorce, other than the fact that he was unhappy.  There was no signs or change in his behavior... so this whole thing has been very hard.  I also had been supporting him for 2 years while he was a ful time college student.

Since I feel much the same as you do, I don't know what to say about advice... besides for you will get through this.  Things will get better even though you can't see it now.  Having resources like this website is wonderful... I feel so guilty bothering my friends all the time... they can't understand what I'm going through.

Stay strong..

Hey! I am so sorry you are going through this. I am recently divorced (4 days) and I was only married for 9 months. My situation was a bit different in that I came home was told by my husband that he had filed for divorce that morning and that he no longer wanted to be married. I am still very confused about it all, because he would/will not talk to me. Just told me he was unhappy and blamed me for it, and everything else.

The best thing I can tell you besides you aren't alone, is that you need to make sure you are protected and take care of yourself now. My name wasn't on any of our property, cars, bank account (not counting my own), etc. and I was very limited by law as to what I was entitled to (I didn't even get our dog). Make sure you have a good attorney, and don't forget your rights! My ex was 7 years my senior and established in his life. We were together for 4 years, and I made sure to reclaim every penny I could prove went into our relationship during that time. I didn't get much, but I walked away with my head held high, and the better person. Always take the high road, in the end it will make you feel better.

I too am living with my parents again temporarily, and even though I feel very pathetic, they are the best support system I could ever ask for. God knows I could not have made it through this without them. Don't let yourself take abuse from him...listen to those around you that you love and trust. Follow your gut instinct

Welcome to this site. It has helped me sooo much. It is wonderful to talk with others who have gone through the same type of problems you have. Just having a place to vent and have some one to say "I understand" is great! There are so many peole who are here to give moral support and nuggets of wisdom and advice.

I feel that you have escaped what might have become a violent relationship. Many people who feel guilt get angry and take that anger out on the person who made them feel guilty. My soon to be ex gets trys to pick a fight everytime we try to talk. Even though he left me for a younger woman, I am at fault about everything. I am sure that he feels guilty due to the lies and betrayal he has introduced in to our lives.
 
Time married has no impact on the pain felt by the betrayed party, but know this, time and friendship can help you move on to that place where you are  happy with yourself.
 We are here for you!
Good Luck and be strong.

Hey There..
I too was married in May 2007, and have spent the past 10 months in misery. After counseling and reading I discovered that my spouse has Borderline Personality Disorder. Its very hard but I too am probably going to divorce within the next few months. Its sad and painful. I completely feel what you are going thru. I am 8 years younger than spouse and its just a huge generation gap. I do love him but with his illness which includes anger, rage and very painful emotional abuse, I can no longer take it. I just want freedom and the ability to be happy again. Not sure what I am going to do, but this definetely was not in my plan. 
I do have a rental space and thankfully I can move out back into my old place, but the whole tragedy of it all is sad. He is not interested in further counseling or reading or anything. In his mind, if I "Do exactly" what he wants everyday...we'd be fine. I disagree. I find myself no longer interested in him. Sexually or romantically. So I found this site today and hope to find the strength to move on. '

Bless you and all of us going thru ths drama right now.

Hey goobermnstr! I am so sorry this happened to you.  It sucks. Most of us here have been through it on one level or another, and it does get better. It just takes time.  It's obvious that your husband doesn't want to work on this, and for whatever reason, he feels it's important to be antagonistic.  You need to get your feet underneath you.  I would recommend you talk to a lawyer and check out your options.  If your husband is being this verbally agressive, chances are he's talking to one himself. 

I don't know what happened between you that got him mad, but understand, you are a better person, and nobody deserves to be treated like that.  I also think you're strong enough, you'll bounce back.  You just need to catch your breath.

Welcome, keep posting, and ask all the questions you need.  We're here!

I wish I could give you a hug and tell you everything will be all right ..... It probably will be all right eventually, you just can't see it from here.
My instincts tell me that you escaped a potentially dangerous situation. Some day you may come to realize that getting out early is waaay better then trying to hang in there and try to make it work. I hung in there for more then forty years. Some parts of those years were worth it, but not many.

Take advantage of being in a safe place for now. Don't feel for one minute that this is all your fault. He sounds like he needs to blow out your candle in order to make his shine brighter.

My suggestion is to read EVERYTHING on this site! There is information on every aspect of your situation to be had somewhere here. Everyone here is so supportive and at different stages in their situations.

I am recently new to this site also.  Just wanted to let you know that their are many others in the same situation, facing divorce not knowing where to start.  I am one of them.  Hang in there and keep checking back for some great advice.  I have gotten lots of great advice and tips from this web site.  Please know you are not alone.  Stay strong! I'll be thinking of you!  ~ R ~