one thing that is true 

the d360 community is unique. 

there are people here who woke up yesterday morning to hear that their spouse wants a divorce...and may have heard the dreaded, 'i love you, but i'm not in love with you anymore' sentence.  

there are people here who are the ones that said that sentence.  

there are people here who are struggling with understanding how their spouse, whom they love and had children with, is now cheating on them.

there are people here who are cheating.  

there are people here who slowly discovered that their spouse is addicted to drugs or alcohol and it's ruining the marriage.  

there are people here who are addicts.  

there are people here who are just realizing that they have been abused physically and/or mentally by their spouse for years.  

there are people here who are abusers.  

there are people here can not believe that their spouse has walked out on them, taken all the money, is ignoring the kids and parental responsibilities and have moved on, seemingly overnight, with another person.  

there are people here who have done just that.  

there are people here who are so overwhelmed with fear and grief and confusion that they have considered giving up and have thought about taking drastic measures.  

there are people here who see divorce as a sign of a new life and are so eager to start over and are happy to be free.  

there are people here with money and career success and huge families and tons of friends and yet can't find any support from any of it.  

there are people here in debt, unemployed, with no family left and no friends in site and yet have found comfort and support from the most unlikely sources.  

there are people here who have turned to their religion to find solace.

there are people here who have turned against their religion because of the divorce.  

we are a unique community, here at d360.  from all walks of life, with so many different, yet similar stories to share.  and we've all come together, here, at this site, and i believe have formed a very strong group of support, encouragement, friendship and understanding.  

we've had some bickering along the way.  

but mostly, what i have seen, is that people come to the site and slowly start reading and then commenting and then asking questions and then writing blogs and then befriending others and then finding the support and hope that we all need.  

when someone is struggling here, so many members jump to come to their side and offer words of encouragement.  when someone is celebrating a small victory, everyone comments with congratulations.  when someone asks a hard question or divulges a secret fear, everyone rushes over to answer or offer understanding.  

it's impossible to know how many people have been helped by this site.  there are so many who read the site, yet do not register to become a member, and never comment or post a blog.  yet they are getting the help they need from just reading the blogs and questions and answers.

it's impossible to know how you have helped someone...or how many someones your blogs or comments have helped.  you never know what shared experiences or thoughts or beliefs or words of support have touched someone and possibly changed how they view their day, their problems, their life.

one thing that is true, is that while we all have such different lives, our divorce stories...our relationship issues...all seem to ring a bell.  there are so many 'i relates' and 'that happened to me too' and 'i know exactly how you feel' comments here, it's proof that while our stories may be different, our pain and suffering and fears are all very much the same.

it's a unique community, d360.....and i'm happy to be a part of it...and to know you all.  

happy holidays everyone.