Should I Stay or Should I Go (California or Washington)? Help me decide. 

Should I Stay or Should I Go (California or Washington)? Help me decide.

I am living in Los Angeles California right now and you can help me decide if I should travel back to Washington.

I been in LA from July 1, 2007 and living in Seattle Washington area before this date. The problem is that I am going thru a separation and my kids are in Walla Walla Washington.

I can move back to be closer to my kids or stay far away. The Answer would be yes move back to see your kids.  There are several reasons why I cannot move back.

Reasons for California:

1.       My Job transfers me to California from Washington as an Emergency Transfer do to wife abuse at work. My job will not transfer me back.

2.       I have Family in California and not in Washington State so I have no place to live if  I move back.

3.       I would have to get a new job and try to live on 500-800 a month living in Seattle.

4.       I would have to deal with x-wife and her relative that does not want me to have contact with my kids.

Reasons for Washington:

1.       Have been living there for 15 years and know a lot of friends because of the time I spent in college and work.

2.       Will be able to have possible joint custody with my kids so they can see me often.

3.       Have difficult filing for divorce if I do not live in WA.

4.       If I do not move back I will not see my kids except once a year. Until this point it’s been a year and a half and it will probably be 2 or more years until I see my kids. Reason is that I have canceled my divorce because I could not afford it. Waiting for X-wife to file, if she does not file I do not see my kids because she is limiting communication other that letters.

Most decisions can be made with a group of people coming together and imputing ideas. If you have any thought about this give me some feedback.