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3 Reasons Divorced People Hate the Holidays 

 The holiday season has officially begun and many divorced people are feeling down. With the rest of the world spreading holiday cheer, you may just want to curl up under your covers and not come out of your room until January 2nd. Most people do not understand how difficult the holidays can be on someone who has gone through a divorce.


Here are 3 reasons divorce people hate the holidays:


 1. Dealing with family. What can be worse than having to face your extended family at the dinner table and having to hear all of the happy family news, like which cousin is engaged, who is having a baby and so on. There you sit, alone, without your spouse, knowing everyone knows all about your divorce drama.


 2. Putting up the decorations. As you decorate the Christmas tree, ornaments can be a reminder of Christmases spent with your spouse. Memories come rushing back. This can be a very sad time. Your hopes and dreams for the future with your spouse are gone and the decorations serve as a painful reminder of what has been lost.


3. Sharing the children. Not spending the holiday with your kids has to be the #1 reason divorcees hate the holidays. If it is your spouse's turn to take the kids and you are alone, it can be very difficult to get through the day.


 I won't lie to you and tell you that your first or even second holiday season after your divorce will be easy. Eventually though you will find joy again in the holidays. It takes time, but one day you will find yourself looking forward to the holidays. In the meantime, do not feel guilty or try and pretend that you are okay. It is alright to mourn the loss of your marriage and the life you once knew. Cry if you feel like it and try and let go of some of those old bottled up emotions.


 If there is anything you can do to cheer yourself up, then do it. Watching old holiday classic movies from your childhood is a great way to get into the holiday spirit. Take it slow and do the best you can. Any small steps you take to life your mood, even a little bit, will help you get through this holiday season.


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by Christina-Rowe  298 Posts 

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I don't hate the holidays, I just hate seeing the stupid commercials on tv all the time becuz they have made Christmas into a big money making thing instead of what it truly is and that's Jesus' birthday!!  Not give me more presents time like the retail stores want you to believe.  I also hate seeing the commercials for jewelry stores and about people getting engaged and all the families all together on Christmas with mom and dad and kids all happy and opening presents--please -- hate seeing them stop showing them!! Like that will happen!! :)  Retail stores are only interested in one thing and one thing only - getting your money!!  The holidays are too commercialized anymore and I hate that!!  My ex wasn't really involved in decorating the tree or the house for the holidays so nothing really has changed here at all!!  He doesn't see the kids that much anymore either, so I don't have to worry about sharing the kids for the holidays either.  And my family has been really supportive thru all this, so I don't have to worry about that either, they have been there for my kids and me thru thick and thin so I can't complain on that!!
by freedom   1017 Posts
Posted on 11/29/2008 12:03 AM

Reading this made me feel a bit better about the holidays.  Luckily, we both got to spend time with our son on Thanksgiving.  Hopefully, that will be the new normal.
by Kitty7470   3803 Posts
Posted on 11/28/2008 4:03 PM

I don't hate the holidays. 

My family blames me for the divorce, oh well. 

I don't intend on decorating for Christmas but simply because I'm moving in January so it seems pointless to unpack decorations when I'm packing up my apartment in general. 

My only kid is the 4 legged kind and I don't have to share her with anyone. 

I make a good independent person and this wasn't the first Thanksgiving I will spend by myself and Christmas and New Years will not be the first I will be spending by myself.
by purebredinip   1194 Posts
Posted on 11/28/2008 2:46 PM

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