Divorce, is it the hardest thing a person goes through? 

It feels exactly like a dear loved ones death...except worse and it takes much longer to recover.  The other's are right...you knew you were loved & the departed would have stayed if they could...but the ex doesn't love you anymore and this is the emotional hurdle to get over.  My first thought was "Did I mean so little to him that he could move on in a blink" and forget everything we once meant to each other? After I cried/denied/raged/and cried some more the answer came...yes.  He could & did.

Once you reach acceptance, the healing can start...at a turtle's pace...but it starts.  Right now I'm in the three step forward/one back dance.  The holidays make it harder.

If it doesn't kill you, it makes you stronger, right?

My dad died, and my divorce was much worse... like angielou said, my husband left by choice, my dad didnt choose to leave, and I knew he still loved me. Knowing my ex is alive, well and would rather not be with me is pain that I cant even explain. I was married to my best friend, so yea, losing that is hard.

I hear it will make us stronger, but so far, it has just made me bitter and angry. I am hoping the "time will heal" cliche will prove itself true. Just try to remember, healing is a process, and try to have faith it will get better one day. One thing I do know is I have grown and learned from the experience. I know what not to settle for, and that trust has to be earned, not given.

When my mom passed away, I thought it was the hardest thing I would ever have to go through.  I was wrong.  Going through this divorce is worse, so far.  At least I knew my mom stilled loved me and wouldn't have left if given the choice.  When my husband left and said he 'just didn't love me like he used to', He might as well stuck a knife in my heart.  I'm not sure how I've changed......I don't think I'm done yet!  Good questions!