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HOW TO LOVE SOMEONE FOREVER 


Wow! It has been awhile since my last blog after I got back from Fiji. So much has happened and didn’t make the time to blog. But I just got back from meeting with one of my great friends and an amazing man, Guru Singh. Me and my beautiful wife Siri Shakti just renewed our vows in LA with Guru Singh and he had some amazing profound things he shared with us that I felt I had to pass on to all of you. So here it is. Love does not keep a marriage or relationship together. That is why so many people go from one relationship or marriage to the next. Because they keep trying to find that love and that passion that last forever. Now I can hear some of you already saying to yourselves, “what?” “Do you mean I should just find someone and stay with them even if I don’t love them?” No, that is not what I am saying. I am saying that relationships go through seasons just like our weather. Some days its beautiful and sunny and then some days it rains. And then some days it freakn storms and all hell breaks loose. Does that remind you of any relationships you have seen? Or maybe been part of? So what does keep a marriage or relationship together? Its called commitment. When the 2 people are committed totally to each other, then they will go through the sunny times and rainy times and always come back to the sunny times of their relationship. Guru Singh said it best, he said, “Love is the flowers and the trees and the relationship or marriage is the house”. What keeps a house together? Nails! Commitment is the nails! So if you truly want the ultimate relationship then you must fully and totally commit yourself to the other person. 100% and be willing to do it forever and ever and ever. Now I’m not telling you to stay in an abusive relationship or if you just started dating someone for 6 months and you don’t feel like they are your true love, to stay with them forever. Obviously you need to use your own judgment. But I will say that, if you are, or ever were in a relationship for a few years and it didn’t feel like the passion was their anymore, it might have just been a change in that season. You might just need to wait it out and let the season change. But remember to be committed to that person and you will have the most incredible love of your life!

 

So Until Next Time,

Be A RockStar In Your Life And Make The World Your Stage,

 

-Dr. Dan Ardebili http://www.MakeTheWorldYourStage.com




by RockStarDrDan  10 Posts 

Posted on 11/16/2008 4:15 PM
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Mag, I am sorry you had to go through that. As you found out, commitment will only work if both partners are fully committed to each other. Obviously he was not committed and wasn't ready to be the man it takes to be in a relationship. I know that you will attract the person of your dreams! I have seen in thousands of times and that is why I wrote my book. Just know that there are millions of amazing men out there ready for a relation-ship and not a relation-canoe.

Dr. Dan

www.AskTheRealLoveGuru.com  
by RockStarDrDan   10 Posts
Posted on 11/25/2008 12:58 AM
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I'm so happy you appreciated my blog!  I know that relationships are not always this way.  Guru Singh made it very clear to us that a relationship is a two person commitment, not a one person commitment.  In these cases, you can only make it clear where you stand in the relationship, continue to move forward, take care of you, and if the other person chooses to come along then awesome.  But if they choose not to walk forward with you in this life then that is up to them.  Just like you both wrote, at least you can move on now knowing that you did your part to make it work.  Good luck to both of you in your future relationships and like I always say, "Live Your Life Like a RockStar And Make The World Your Stage."  http://www.MakeTheWorldYourStage.com
by RockStarDrDan   10 Posts
Posted on 11/17/2008 11:29 AM
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Very powerful and amazing words. Alot of us out there know what it takes to make a marriage work and are willing to battle the storms when they arise. It is unfortunate that we married the ones that were just looking for their next "high".

 

 

by Dignified   163 Posts
Posted on 11/17/2008 9:37 AM
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RockStarDrDan,  I'm glad you post those powerful words of wisdom from Mr. Singh.  I'm glad you've found the love of your life.  My situation is where I did everything I could possibly do save/revive our marriage and my stbx done everything he could possibly do to destroy it.  Over and over he was verbally abusive and sometimes got physical.  He was cheating repeatedly and on drugs and because of this he would decide not to pay the bills when he felt like it.   After 10 years of marriage, fasting, hoping and praying that the marriage work.  Even fast that I be cleansed of wrong doings because I wasn't perfect in the marriage but I didn't loose sight of my vows and my covenant I had with my spouse.  I never cheated on him nor did I neglect my responsibility as a wife, friend or a mother by any means.  This man just refused to stop, it just wasn't in him.  So after praying, praying, and fasting it was clear to me to leave.   It was one of the hardest thing to do because I did put my whole heart, mind and soul into this marriage.  Now my stbx lives with another woman which was 3 months after I left.  This man still curses me out over the simplest things.  So even after all this I'm not mad at men.  I haven't picked up the "All men are dogs" mindset.  I know that there are good men like yourself out there just single.   So yes thanks for the words and it will be helpful in the future for me.  Congrats on renewing your vows
by mag   114 Posts
Posted on 11/17/2008 9:22 AM
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