Do I Remind Him of his Obligations or Let Him Figure it Out? 

Part of my divorce agreement says that my ex has to contribute to college costs for our daughter. Lately, I have been wondering if I need to remind him of that. One of our big issues was our different views on parenting. I don't believe in spoiling children, but I do believe in paying for their education. He was the opposite. Indulge them with video games and big screen televisions, but they are on their own for college.

I have been feeling nervous lately that he is going to try to get out of paying his share. But I'm not sure if reminding him gives him the opportunity to go to court and try to have it modified. I just keep thinking about how he wouldn't contribute to any of her lessons or her trip to London with the marching band. I can't imagine he is suddenly going to be amenable when it comes to college. On the other hand, if he tries to change the order at that point, hopefully the judge won't agree.

And what of living expenses, does he understand that he will be obligated to pay for some of those, too? Probably not. He has never felt much obligation to take care of anyone but himself. I think he is in for a rude awakening if he thinks that we she graduates high school his costs will go down. They will more likely go up between tuition and living expenses.

I guess it isn't my job to remind him of the order, he has a copy himself. I just hope for our daughter's sake, he adheres to it.