If I could go back, would I marry him? 

I've thought about this question often.  If I could go back and do it all over again, would I still marry him?  I of course put my kids out of the equation as I ponder this, because of course they were worth every minute of my marriage.  BUT, that said, I do believe that knowing what I know now, which mostly consists of actually knowing myself, no, I probably wouldn't.  So many people struggle with getting divorced.  It isn't fun.  It isn't pretty.  Yet in almost every other aspect of our life we understand that we grow and change.  We evolve.  We don't keep wearing cutsie little high school outfits when we are in our 30s, 40s, 50s, and so on.  We don't stay in an apartment that we are clearly outgrowing.  We don't stay in a job forever that is completely miserable that has mutated and become something different.  So with all of that in mind........if I went back in time with the knowledge that I have now, of course I wouldn't marry him.  But I also realize that I would not be the person I am today without having been through the experience of that marriage and recovering from that divorce.  So........being that I rather like who I am today and how far I've come.  Yes, I think I would marry him all over again.  He has provided me amazing clarity of what I do and don't want in my life, and for that I'm grateful!