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rendezvous behind mickey's house  

i'm going to disney this weekend with my kids, my neighbor, and his kids.

 

this trip was planned over a month ago.

 

it's a kid trip, only.  it's not a romantic weekend excursion.  

 

trust me.  if you've ever been to disney with kids, you know what i mean.   four kids + disney + halloween party + candy = chaos.  

 

i'm sure we, the adults, will be totally insane by hour 3.  

 

a co-worker friend of mine told me that neighbor man will be expecting this to be a romantic trip.  

 

i seriously doubt that.  he would have to be crazy to think that would be at all possible.  

 

my co-worker friend says that yes, he does think this and i should be prepared for advances.  

 

i say that's not only wrong, but simply uncool.  for neighbor to think that somehow we would be able to sneak away from four young children for a rendezvous behind mickey's house is juvenile.  

 

what do you guys say?   am i just so out of the game that i don't see this? 

by paula1  12662 Posts 

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He may be scoping out the situation to see if all are compatible for future family outings or getting closer at the home front.

You might like what you see or you might find out this is going to be just a great friendship. You are very trusting to go on a vacation with neighbor guy. I am leery of that type of close involvement with the opposite sex. Even if there are kids involved. The kids may start to get ideas of a Brady Bunch future. 

I do hope you have communicated everything that bp and Gatsby mentioned. Who knows what will happen. There are many guesses but no one will know until you go. Enjoy the vacation.

by lgoodgal   1036 Posts
Posted on 10/6/2008 9:09 PM
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Have a great trip no matter what the outcomes, romantic or other wise.
by mominny   219 Posts
Posted on 10/4/2008 1:10 PM
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I would say that I would keep my eyes open...that your neighbor may be right. Many people won't do things like that unless there is "something in it for them". It is sad but the older I get the more I find out that it is true.
by mtnvly   3539 Posts
Posted on 10/3/2008 9:40 AM
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I think Jamie M is spot-on.  
1.  As she say, guys think of hotel rooms as "magic" re sex.  I think it is a 1-1 coorelation (hotel room=sex).  Yes there are kids, which just means you have to stay up later and be discreet. (if the kids are young this is esp easy - also, Disney tires kids out like nothing else - we were there once and a fire alarm went off - it was a false alarm - but the kids slept thru it!!!).  As a guy, I think that a lot of guys might try to do the "hey, lets sneak in the bathroom for a second and do some fooling around...."
2.  I suspect you will have a blast - your kids will love being together, disney pulls the sappy emotions out, etc.  It will be hard not to start thinking about him "that way" - as a family, etc etc...

If you are not seeing it, maybe it is the guy, not the situation....
by jackson   723 Posts
Posted on 10/3/2008 9:30 AM
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Kids go to bed right?

Yes, he's thinking this is going to be romantic. Maybe not sex romantic, but I'm pretty sure he's going to try to play house. Anytime people who are attracted to each other go on vacation there's that magic hotel room thing goin' on.

Be prepared, or prepare him *gently* before you go.
by JaimeM   98 Posts
Posted on 10/2/2008 10:09 PM
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Ok I agree  With You!   First  By some rare Miracle if  there  was a possible get away from  four kids  , all  hyped up  on the Disney land Express  Right there  would  be  a  WOW !, Second : To  even  think of or Plan of sex and to  tell someone  el's  about  how  you should be  prepared for  a sex getaway , Well  it takes all the Romance out of the  it  Third:  The last thing I would be thinking of no matter  how in love / lust I was  with someone  after a day with  four kids , disney Land Of  rides , excitement , heat ,  crabby adults  as well as other peoples  screaming  tired  kids  would be not thinking of  a sex get away.. Neighbor Man Must be  a bit Nuts or  strictly  forgetting  Parenting 101 Yep  Not COOL! Maybe some Mickey Ice cubes Down is shorts  can cool him down! LOL
by AuntBirdy   189 Posts
Posted on 10/2/2008 10:04 PM
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yeah, i pretty much agree with almost everybody.  is this somebody u flirt with?  or talk with a lot?  or are u like me and my neighbors and we really rarely even see eachother.  if u hardly have even talked with him then , i could see your point. he has no right to think this trip would be romantic. but if you talk a lot, flirt with him, and have not been real clear about your "friendship" then u might be in for seeing a little more of his "mouse" than u were counting on! :-)
by cag   115 Posts
Posted on 10/2/2008 11:55 AM
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"...totally insane..." - I do have my take on this trip, as follows:

  • The plans were made prior to your announcement to your neighbor in regards to feelings for another...
  • A trip geared towards children within a yet to be blended family is exactly that, a trip geared towards children; and, with this in mind, both adults need to be very clear on what is expected of one another at all levels of communication...
  • Expenses should have already been discussed was totally clarity so that there are no surprises or confused after-thoughts...

And, unless the above is understood by all participants, I would re-consider that possibility of doing this as a extended group...

Otherwise, enjoy the family getaway for the sake of the children... ;-)
by bp   1239 Posts
Posted on 10/2/2008 11:22 AM
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I feel for you. I made Disney World with my ex once. Never again. He was worse than a kid. 4 kids would have been better than going with him. The first bus from the hotel and the last coming back for two days. Paula have you forgotten "quickies". Some of the hotels do have baby sitters.
by trisha9054   4967 Posts
Posted on 10/2/2008 11:19 AM
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What are you a FOB? (Fresh off the boat)

Of course this is going to be a romantic weekend.

How are the room set-ups? who is paying for what?

Who is driving?

I am sure he is in the process of making a sign to be posted on the door..." Kids..Don't come knocking if this room is rocking.."

For what is worth...just take it as it comes....have fun...be yourself!

by Gatsby   59 Posts
Posted on 10/2/2008 11:04 AM
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I would think he might believe that just spending the time with you could be seen as romantic.  Sure being male he might of had those thoughts but since he seems like a decent guy and has his kids he'll know its not probable.  However not to say he won't try to sneak a kiss or two when the kids aren't looking.
by falcon81   377 Posts
Posted on 10/2/2008 9:43 AM
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