What is next? 

This is exactly why men need to form intimate male friendships. It's not too late of course. My suggestion, and one that has proved helpful to countless men is to join a men's group. In a group there are always men who have gone through what you are going through right now and they would be willing to share their stories as well as their solutions to the emotional mess you are facing right now. If you need help finding a group or starting one, let me know and I would be pleased to point you in the right direction.
Ken

Hey theoneandonly!   Been there, at least in spirit.  I mean MyEx left me, not for another, but I think technically for herself.  So she basically said, "I would rather be alone, than be with you."  Ouch...

It sounds like you've had it tough.  I know it sounds cliche, but it will get better.  It just takes time.  How much?  It varries.  I would recommend you still hang out with friends.  Get social.  That's not to say "Go date," you're obviously not there yet. Still, get yourself right, make new friends, do things you didn't do because you were busy being a husband.  The trick is to make new memories, and to fill your life with new things to replace the dark memories left over. 

If you're a religious person, I would also recommend prayer.  God listens.  I would pray to forgive her.  She's obviously hurt you, and it was wrong, but the sooner you can forgive her and let go, the sooner you can move on yourself. 

I"m sorry you find yourself here.  We're all here for ya, so keep us posted!

Hi,
I just recently went through a divorce (you can read my story). I completely understand how you feel. I also felt lost and dead inside. I even asked my friends "who am I? do you remember?" cuz I didn't. I completely lost my individuality. I hadnt thought for myself or what I wanted in life in so long. What I can suggest is just take it day by day. Go to bookstores, find books on rebuilding yourself. Rebuild YOU. Find out what it is that truly makes YOU happy. This is all about YOU now. It's easier said than done, I know. Join a gym, it really is awesome and boosts self-esteem. And not sure what faith you are but having working on your spiritual health is golden.

Good luck and Cheers to new beginnings (it may not seem like it now but 6 months after my divorce, I am so much happier than I was...I never realized how unhappy I was with him.)

 

You will be OK! I promise... :)