Sometimes it’s better to lose the battle and win the war! 

jhs:
What's that 20 part consisting of over there? Are your standards high?

How about we just don't bother to meet folks falling into the first three groups? :-)

I like this post, though. But have to make a personal comment. #3 is now a STBX, and boy have I spent time soul-searching, contemplating my navel, and other introspective activities trying to figure myself out. And after reading this...

I think #1 was about 75/25 when we started. But 5 of that 25 grew to be intolerable over the years and I felt like it was 49/51 at the end. Moral of this is that people change, and so do those mythical percentages.

I think #2 was about 90/10 all the way through. Until she decided to cheat for morally bankrupt reasons, that is. Actually, that's not true, it was still about 90/10. It just that the 10 was a deal-breaker for me. Moral of this is that sometimes is not just the numbers, but how important they are.

And I think #3 was about 60/40 most of the way through until it turned around and became more like 30/70. Moral of this is to not marry 'em too soon.

If I could get an 80/20 that doesn't get worse over time, and there weren't any deal-breakers in the 20 part, I'm pretty sure I'd be a happy man for a very long time.

And that's what I'm looking for. Wish me luck!

Falling in love is the easy part... staying in love is the hard part.

Its the flaws and quirks that make us unique.  Unique is not always bad.

I just telling myself that my replacement is nothing more than a "generic knock-off"

Bottom line: The grass is NOT greener on the other side. Stop looking for something better cuz it doesn't exist.

At the end of the day, I want a man that will accept my flaws, annoying habits and me being a pain in the a$$. lol. If he can do that, the rest will fall into place. Falling in love is the easy part.

The good ol' 80/20 rule. 

Do you think if people get married for the wrong reasons they even realize the 80/20 rule?  I don't. 

I think my ex liked 20% of me and just put up with me for all the years because he didn't have to do anything.  Lazy bastard.