Resolution #1: Let It Go! 

thank u for your post. it is a true and noble goal to get past it. i want to do that but havent been able to which is also a contributing factor to the divorce. i am angry for a number of issues in our marriage. her addictions to shopping,  spending, alcohol, and now that we're separated, men.i feel helpless in that the kids are somewhat exposed to her behaviors due to her leaving a wide trail behind her. she knows how to say all the right things so people are impressed by her and think i'm the schmuck unless they know us for any amount of time. which why we hardly had people over to our house. and usually it would be people who liked to drink like her so they would all be happily drunk.         obviously i am still working thru a lot of stuff.