Solution Lady: How to Be the Real You after Split
Mental Health: After Divorce, Try Listening More and Judging Less?
By LINDA ROBERT
What if someday day you woke up and you followed these guidelines:
1. You were as truthful as you could be without being hurtful.
2. You were as kind as you could be even if you didn’t know someone.
3. You expressed your needs and wants no matter how scared you were to say them.
4. You talked to people you wouldn’t normally talk to because you knew that you were going to learn something from them.
5. You listened without placing a judgment on what you heard.
6. You listened, responding with nothing but a “Thank you” or “I see”, or “I understand.”
7. You did not get upset when someone got angry or expressed another negative emotion because you knew that it wasn’t about you. The other person was simply expressing themselves, letting go of or releasing energy so that they could feel better.
8. You were you, the real you, as crazy as it may be, as abnormal as it may sound.
9. You saw yourself as energy, taking in energy as you breathed and letting energy out as you breathed.
10. You visualized this energy as a part of you, of you as a part of it.
11. When you were around certain people, you discovered they sapped the energy from you.
12. When you were around certain people, you discovered they energized you.
What do you think would happen if you woke up every day like this or followed this as often as you remembered? Try it and note how it affects others near you.
Linda G. Robert M.A., M.Ed., is known as The Solution Lady for personal, self-care, wellness and life solutions. She's worked in the mental health field and education field for several years as well as in law enforcement. Find out more about her at www.lindarobert.ca. Check out her newest booklet at http://www.myarticles.thesolutionlady.com/index.html.
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