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Why is it that the court assumes so much about who a better parent will be- just by the gender?! My ex belittles my children every chance she gets. Until they came to live with me I had no idea how badly she had striped them of their dignity and self esteem. It is an ongoing battle for my daughter to believe me when I tell her she is a smart, beautiful, caring young woman who has a lot to offer this world. Therapy will never rid her completely of the doubts her mother implanted in her head.

Why is it that the courts assume that the one who gave birth should AUTOMATICLY be the better parent!?  Remember what they say about assuming things?

You would think that well educated judges would look at ALL the evidence, not just take the word of a stranger the courts refer to as “the mother”.

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Apparently Florida custody states that FATHERS HAVE NO RIGHTS - even if the child is removed by Department of Children & Families for emotional and physiological abuse by the mother, I, as the Dad, get to have my daughter live with me fulltime, but not have her custody. I still have to  fight for custody of my 16yr old who was pulled and fight for my 18yr and 13yr old daughters WHILE STILL PAYING child support for all my kids. THEN my ex gets to keep the money and NOT contribute a dime to help for caring of the girls- clothes, food, school, etc. All the while my daughter & I fear my ex will pull her out of school & force her back into the same situation.

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Absent any extraordinary circumstances - no matter what you call it - mom gets the kids and you, if you're the dad, get something called "visitation". As a father, are you not offended by this very premise? In my opinion, unless you have been accused, tried and found guilty of being an unfit parent, you should not accept the notion that you have somehow lost, given up, or forfeited you "custodial" rights. Think about it. How and why should custody be determined by a judge, when you have never relinquished your parental rights in the first place. Well did you? Unfortunately, most fathers blindly accept this practice and end up agreeing to something that would be unthinkable if they understood what was really happening here. There are good laws and there are bad laws and this is one of the worst. The state is overstepping it's bounds in thinking it has the power, let alone the ability, to make decisions "in the best interests of the children". What hogwash. Do not agree to any custody decision that violates your right to be the same parent you were the day before the divorce papers were filed. Your interest in being a father to your children, on your terms, as you see fit, trump the state's so-called interests.

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